Friday, April 24, 2026

Friday Letters

 

Today I'm taking my virtual fountain pen in hand to write a few Friday letters. I've done something that might have been dumb but need to correct it, found something small that makes me happy, and written some haiku. 

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So disappointing!
 

Dear Past Bonny,

Try to remember this saying when purchasing glasses, "Penny Wise, Pound Foolish". You had your eyes checked, got the prescription from the eye doc, and searched around for the best price online for your glasses. The last pair you got from the optometrist cost ~$800 (frameless with progressive Transition lenses) and since the old ones are breaking, you were anxious to find the same thing at a much better price. You finally settled on GlassesUSA, ordered what you hoped would be the perfect pair for $275, and waited for them to be delivered. What a disappointment you had on Saturday when they arrived, you tried them on, and found that everything was blurry. There was no way that they were even remotely acceptable, so you called to start the return and refund process. That will be a saga that goes on for a couple of weeks, but how best to proceed? Renew your Costco membership and look for glasses there? Try Walmart optical and see if they can produce a pair of glasses that work for a reasonable price? Or just suck it up and go back to the optician, get a pair that will be incredibly expensive, but will most likely be done right? Glasses are a tool that I use to see all day, everyday, and I can just hear my grandfather saying, "always buy the best tools you can afford". I think I have to heed his advice. 

Sincerely,

Present and Future Bonny

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Birds by Jane Werner Watson, pictures by Eloise Wilkin, published in 1958

To Whomever Might Need It,

I love sites where people ask about treasured childhood books they vaguely remember and other people give them possible titles or leads about what their childhood memory might be. Oftentimes, the people asking the questions have very few details other than maybe a rough guide to the plot and I always laugh when they say, "It had a red (or green or blue) cover". But what I really love is when commenters successfully identify the book. It doesn't always happen, but it gives me a little jolt of joy when it does. If this is something you might enjoy, check out @myoldbooks on Instagram. I've found several book that I enjoyed as a child!

From,  

A Lover of Childhood Books 

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Dear Phyllis (my SiL), 

Last Friday I sent you a limerick about your cataract surgery that I mistakenly thought was scheduled for that day. When you told me that your first surgery was really today, I felt compelled to write some haiku for the occasion. I kind of like them, and I hope you can see well enough to possibly enjoy them also. 

Soft clouds in her eyes,
Phyllis greets the morning blur.
Soon, sharp light returns.

Kind hands, steady light,
A veil lifts from Phyllis’ gaze.
World in crisp detail.

Brave Phyllis rests calm,
New clarity on its way.
Colors sing again.

Hoping you can see clearly now,

Bonny 

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I hope your weekend includes some good books and clear vision.

 

Wednesday, April 22, 2026

Unraveled Wednesday: 4/22/26

I don't think there is an official Unraveled Wednesday linkup while Kat is taking a break, but Wednesdays are my favorite blogging day, especially if I haven't had to do any any actual unraveling. I'm enjoying our cooler and more seasonable weather and have been knitting almost monogamously on Justin's hat.

I'd love to finish the hat soon(ish) and get started on duplicate stitching the animals while I'm feeling motivated. I only have a couple more rows until I start the decreases so the end isn't too far away.

I finished one book this week, and it was a good one. Thanks for the recommendation, Vera! Sex of the Midwest completely won me over in a way I didn’t quite expect. Going in, I was intrigued by the premise, a mysterious town-wide sex survey arriving in inboxes, but what unfolds is something much richer and more nuanced than that hook suggests. This is very much a novel-in-stories, following a wide cast of residents in Lanier, Indiana, each chapter offering a glimpse into a different life, a different struggle, a different quiet longing. The connections between characters are subtle but satisfying, creating a layered portrait of a community that feels hopefully authentic and deeply human.

It’s been compared to Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout, one of my all-time favorite books, and I’ll admit I was a little skeptical. That’s a high bar for me, but I was pleasantly surprised by how well this measured up. Like Strout’s work, Sex of the Midwest captures the small, often unspoken moments that define people’s lives, and it does so with empathy and insight rather than judgment.

One of the book’s greatest strengths is how attached I became to these characters. Nearly every story left me wishing for just a little more time with them. I was genuinely sad to see each chapter end, and by the final pages, I realized I’ll miss many of these people, like the man waiting for his lung transplant after having covid, the aspiring writer behind the bar, the quietly simmering bureaucrat, and so many others.

It’s also worth noting that the title is a bit of a misnomer. Despite the provocative setup, this book has surprisingly little to do with sex itself (aside from one particularly enthusiastic survey respondent). Instead, it’s about connection, isolation, identity, and the strange ways people try to understand themselves and each other, especially in a post-pandemic world.

Thoughtful, quietly funny, and deeply compassionate, Sex of the Midwest is a beautifully constructed mosaic of small-town life. If you enjoy interconnected stories and character-driven fiction, this is absolutely worth your time. Four and a half stars rounded up because I may read it again in a short while; it ended way too soon.

What are you making and reading on this penultimate April Wednesday?

 

Monday, April 20, 2026

Sometimes Monday ...

 ... is a great day to Vote by Mail. 


 It's "just" the primary, but it's still important and I hope it actually gets counted!

Thursday, April 16, 2026

Three (Book reviews) on Thursday

I read three books this week, so I decided to post all the reviews together today. Edited to add: It turns out that I actually finished four but didn't want to ruin the alliteration of Three on Thursday. 

The first is one that Sarah read last week, and I read the second one in an attempt to try and make more sense of the first. Abigail Thomas’s What Comes Next and How to Like It is a quiet, contemplative memoir that reads less like a traditional narrative and more like a collection of fleeting thoughts, small, intimate moments stitched together in a non-linear, almost stream-of-consciousness style. Comprised of short vignettes, the book moves through grief, friendship, aging, creativity, and the strange, often unanswerable question of how to keep going when life keeps taking.

Thomas’s prose is undeniably sharp and direct. There’s a spareness to her writing that I appreciated; she wastes no words, and many passages carry a kind of understated honesty. Her reflections on long-term friendship offer glimpses of something deep and sustaining, even when the rest of life feels uncertain or diminished.

That said, the fragmented structure, while stylistically interesting, made it difficult to fully engage. The vignettes often felt more like impressions than explorations, and I found myself wanting more depth and more cohesion. While there are moments of insight, they felt fleeting, and I struggled to come away feeling truly enlightened, moved, or even particularly educated, which are qualities I tend to look for in a memoir.

Ultimately, this is a book that seems more about sitting with life as it is rather than drawing meaning from it. For some readers, that may be enough. For me, it felt a bit too slight to leave a lasting impression.

I came to A Three Dog Life after reading What Comes Next and How to Like It, mostly hoping to better understand the events that shaped Abigail Thomas’s later reflections. In that sense, this book provided some helpful context. It fills in the emotional and practical realities behind the fragments of her more recent work.

This memoir centers on the aftermath of her husband’s traumatic brain injury, and the life Thomas builds in response to that devastating shift. While her signature style is still present, with brief sections and a somewhat impressionistic structure, it felt more cohesive here. Her emotions are written more clearly, and I was better able to follow the arc of her experience, from shock and guilt to a kind of fragile stability.

Thomas’s prose remains spare and direct, which works well for the subject matter. There are moments of genuine insight, particularly in how she grapples with what it means to remain connected to someone who is, in many ways, no longer the person you knew. I also appreciated that I did learn something from this memoir, about care giving, adaptation, and the ways people continue living after unimaginable disruption. That’s something I tend to look for in memoir, and this book delivered more of it than her later one.

Dogs, as the title suggests, play a central role here, not just as companions, but as emotional anchors. Thomas’s deep affection for them is evident, and they help shape the quieter, rebuilt life she describes. It’s striking, too, that despite everything, she manages to carve out a decent, even meaningful life.

Still, while I admired much of what this book was doing, it didn’t fully land for me on an emotional level. The distance created by the fragmented style sometimes kept me from feeling as immersed as I wanted to be. I gave it 3.5 stars, but couldn’t quite round up.


Maxim Loskutoff’s Old King is a quiet, unsettling novel that lingers in the spaces between men, between ideologies, and between the myth of the American frontier and its unraveling. Set against the rugged backdrop of Lincoln, Montana, the story follows Duane Oshun as he runs away from a divorce in Salt Lake City and stumbles into a logging community and the orbit of a reclusive neighbor, Ted Kaczynski, along with some other reclusive and stubborn men. There are few women in this book, and they are definitely secondary characters.

I’ve always had some degree of interest in Kaczynski, with my own connection to Lincoln through having a cabin there. That familiarity made this novel feel quite grounded. Loskutoff captures the place with an authenticity that’s hard to fake, the rhythms of the town, the isolation, the quiet tensions simmering beneath everyday interactions. Lincoln is more than just a setting; it’s a force that shapes these men and their choices.

What makes Old King particularly compelling is that it isn’t really about Kaczynski, at least not in the way one might expect. Instead, it’s about the intersection of several lives of along Stemple Pass Road, men who circle one another, sometimes barely aware of the impact they’re having. Their connections are loose, almost accidental, yet deeply consequential. Loskutoff explores how proximity alone can bind people together, for better or (more often) worse.

The author's portrayal of Kaczynski is especially fascinating, neither sensationalized nor excused, but rendered as one thread in a larger tapestry of disillusionment, masculinity, and environmental grief. The “Old King” itself, the ancient Douglas fir, stands as a powerful symbol of what’s being lost, and of the competing values that drive these men toward conflict.

This is not an easy or uplifting read. There’s a quiet inevitability to the tragedy that unfolds, and it’s striking how none of these men emerge unscathed. Their lives, shaped by isolation, stubbornness, and a kind of muted longing, seem destined to collide in ways that can only end badly. Still, Old King is a deeply rewarding novel, thoughtful, atmospheric, and sharply observant. It asks difficult questions about progress, connection, and the stories we tell ourselves about independence. Three and a half stars rounded up. 

Yesteryear is an ambitious, unsettling debut that’s at its best when it leans into its sharp social critique, even if it occasionally stumbles under the weight of its own ideas. 

The premise was irresistible to me: a carefully curated “tradwife” influencer suddenly forced to live the actual reality of early 19th-century life. Burke wastes no time stripping away Natalie’s glossy, performative existence and replacing it with something brutal, filthy, and deeply disorienting. The contrast between the Instagram fantasy and the physical toll of survival is vividly rendered, and often genuinely disturbing. There’s a visceral quality to these sections that kept me turning pages.

What worked well for me was how pointed the novel is about performance, of femininity, of faith, and of morality. Natalie’s confidence in her own superiority, built on a curated life and a rigid belief system, feels uncomfortably real. I actually know a woman very much like this; she professes to be deeply religious, but she has also openly expressed that her faith makes her better than others. That familiarity made Natalie less of a caricature and more of a recognizable and unsettling type. Burke clearly understands the psychology she’s writing about, and that lends the book a sharp, sometimes biting authenticity.

That said, the novel doesn’t always balance its themes as smoothly as it could. At times, the satire feels heavy-handed, and the story’s central mystery, what exactly is happening to Natalie, loses momentum as the book toggles between possibilities. I found myself much more invested in the idea of the story than in its eventual direction. I'll admit that I childishly wanted Natalie to get her comeuppance, but I'm not sure that happened. Parts felt rushed, particularly given how extreme Natalie’s transformation is meant to be.

Still, Yesteryear is a thought-provoking read, especially for anyone interested in the intersection of social media, gender roles, patriarchy, and belief. It’s sometimes uncomfortable and unafraid to ask questions, but sadly, it doesn't explore those questions in any depth.
 
Some different reading for me this week, but that's what keeps things interesting. What are you reading? 

 

 

Wednesday, April 15, 2026

Unraveled Wednesday: 4/15/26

I’m happy to join Kat and the Unravelers today with the Hitchhiker still in progress, and I've finally received all of the colors of Palette from Knitpicks that I need to knit and duplicate stitch Justin's hat. 


We're on our second day of unseasonably warm temperatures in the 90s. This is supposed to last until Friday and then we'll return to more seasonable temps next week. To be honest, the Hitchhiker looks much the same as last week so I'm not even going to stretch it out, but I have added another skein. I knit on it a lot yesterday, but my hands get sweaty so I may be forced to set it aside temporarily until next week. That's okay, I have quite a bit to knit on Justin's hat and then the duplicate stitching will probably take even longer. That pile o' Palette is a good reminder that I should get going!

I read three books this week and seemed to write wordy reviews, so I'll post them all together tomorrow.  

What are you making this Tax Day in April? 


Tuesday, April 14, 2026

Happy Reblooming Day!

I've had a bunch of these little orchids over the years, but I'm down to just two of them. I've never successfully rebloomed any of them ... until now!

I can't pretend that I did anything special; it pretty much happened on its own. I did read that lowering the temperature might help in reblooming orchids, and our kitchen where the orchids live was really cold during much of the winter. That may have contributed but it's nothing I can repeat.
 

The flower stalk has had buds for a couple of months and they finally started to open last week. It's a little bit hard to see, but the flowers have a tiny little "dogtooth" or "v" thing at the end of the lower purple petal that fascinates me. I'm looking forward to more buds opening up and seeing lovely flowers for a while. I may even have to get another little orchid the next time I'm at the grocery store!

 

Friday, April 10, 2026

Friday Letter

 
Today I'm taking my virtual fountain pen in hand to write just one Friday letter. This has been a week and then some, filled with deadlines, threats, and global terror. I think that very often poetry is one of the best ways to deal with feelings and concerns this deep, so I wrote another poem. I've been thinking about it all week, so I'm sending this letter to all of you, to presidents, prime ministers, supreme leaders, really everyone, as we're all in this together.

Earth from Artemis II

To Everyone,

A quiet thing at first,
no louder than a breath,
kindness passing hand to hand
like a small, steady flame.

Respect grows in its shadow,
roots threading under borders,
lifting what was hardened
into something we can feel.

Hope arrives without spectacle,
just a door left open,
a chair pulled close,
a voice that chooses truth.

And peace,
not distant, not impossible,
but here, in the fragile work
of seeing one another whole.

Sincerely and with love,

A Global Citizen In Search of Peace

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Wishing you a very peaceful weekend. 

Wednesday, April 8, 2026

Unraveled Wednesday: 4/8/26

I’m happy to join Kat and the Unravelers today, with a bit of unraveling due to my own carelessness, but I'm back on track now.  

I have been doing six teeth between eyelet rows, but I was happily knitting along when I noticed that I had only done five teeth between the last two eyelet rows. I tried telling myself that nobody would notice while I was wearing it, but I would know. And I knew it would bug me, so I ripped out a bunch, made sure to knit six teeth before I did the eyelet row, and then kept going. I'm just a little bit past where I was last week, but I know I'll be happier in the long run. 

I finished one book this week. Once and Again is one of those books that worked for me in spite of itself, or perhaps more accurately, in spite of my own reading preferences. It leans heavily into two elements I tend to avoid: magical realism and romance. That’s on me for not reading the description closely enough, but I’ll admit I was a bit skeptical. And yet, I was still drawn in.

The novel’s central premise, that each woman in the Novak family can turn back time once, was undeniably compelling. Serle uses this idea to explore the weight of choice, regret, and the quiet, persistent question of “what if.” I found myself especially taken with the way this one-time power shapes not just decisions, but entire outlooks on life. Knowing you only get a single do-over would inevitably make you more cautious, or maybe more reckless, and the book captures that tension well.

The Malibu setting and the layered family dynamics added warmth and texture, even when the plot drifted into more predictable romantic territory. The rekindled first-love storyline didn’t fully win me over, but it was handled with enough sincerity to keep me invested.

I was quite taken with the idea of being able to turn back time once and how that might make you live your life differently. At times, I wanted the novel to dig a little deeper into the emotional and philosophical implications of its premise. The concept is so rich that it occasionally felt underexplored, especially when the narrative leaned more toward romance than introspection.

Still, this was an enjoyable read overall, thoughtful, easy to read, and anchored by an idea that lingers after the final page. Even if it didn’t completely align with my usual tastes, I’m glad I gave it a chance.Three stars from me. 
 
What are you making and reading this chilly April day?

Tuesday, April 7, 2026

Poetry Month (In a Way)

You might have remembered that April is Poetry Month, that month where several of us celebrated by sharing poems we had found. Sometimes these were centered around an author or a theme, sometimes they were just poems that we loved. We were careful to provide citations, and I (mistakenly) thought this meant we were respecting the author's copyright. It became clear that if we were posting poetry written by someone else, then that is against copyright law unless the work is in the public domain or you have permission. Using small excerpts (~ two lines) from other poets' work may be allowed under "fair use," but reproducing entire poems requires permission. 

None of us wanted to be stealing poetry, so despite the fact that our intentions were good (solely to share and enjoy poetry), we couldn't figure a way around this. We decided it was better to not to do our usual celebration of Poetry Month, which saddened many of us, but sometimes you just have to be a grownup and do the right thing. 

But ... publishing your own poetry on a personal blog is not against copyright law, so that's what I'm doing today. I read an article about Zip Odes and was intrigued. Invented in 2015, the Zip Ode is a five-line poem about where you live, written in the form of your zip code. Write the numbers of your zip code down the left-hand side of the page. Each number determines the number of words in that line. If you have a zero in your zip code, that line is a wild card! You can leave it blank, insert an emoji or symbol, or use any number of words between 1 and 9.

Lucky me! My zip code is 08822, so I get a wild card line, along with two lines with eight words. I wrote my own Zip Ode, focusing on some of the things I love about this area. 

Fog drifts low across the Delaware River at dawn
Backroads wind past barns, farms, and weathered histories
Wind carries church bells across fields at dusk
Stone walls
Home again 
 
 
Feel free to give your own Zip Ode a try. You can even publish it on your blog without any fear of copyright infringement! Happy Poetry Month; be sure to read and maybe write some poetry today. 

Friday, April 3, 2026

Friday Letters

Today I'm taking my virtual fountain pen in hand to write a few Friday letters. I've been to the grocery store, come across something unique and interesting, and had some reactions. You might, too. 

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Dear Utrecht Fish People,

I can't thank you enough for your fish doorbell! There is just something so undeniably fun about staring at an underwater camera, hoping to see a fish so I can ring the doorbell. I've enjoyed myself quite a bit, sitting with my knitting, waiting, and watching in hopes of letting a fish through on their journey to spawn. It would be a real accomplishment if you could teach the fish to ring the doorbell themselves, but until that happens, I'm happy to help. 

Sincerely,

A fish-watching friend

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Dear Peeps,

Last week it was Protein Pop-Tarts, this week it's some sort of meta Pop-Tart flavored Peeps? I'll admit that I was a little bit tempted to buy a box just so I could see how bad they tasted, but I'm fairly sure they are just as bad as I'm imagining. 

I would also like to voice my objections over the Dr. Pepper flavor. Dr. Pepper is my favorite soda and it should not be tarnished by using it as some sort of marketing gimmick to sell your chick-shaped blobs of marshmallow. But if I do happen to see some of these at half price after Easter, I may not be able to resist. (But only if they're half price!)

 I can't wait to see what you come up with next. (Maybe Protein Peeps!),

 A Dr. Pepper lover who only imbibes in liquid form

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I wish you a wonderful weekend, a Happy Passover or Happy Easter if you celebrate either one, and maybe a handful of just the good-tasting jellybeans!

Wednesday, April 1, 2026

Unraveled Wednesday: 4/1/26

I’m happy to join Kat and the Unravelers today with a Hitchhiker photo that looks much the same as last week, but if I had remembered to take a photo while it was still light out, you might be able to spy 9 more teeth. 

The temperature got up to 80 degrees for the past two days so it was kind of sweaty and uncomfortable to have the Hitchhiker on my lap. I think today is supposed to be another unseasonably warm day, but hopefully we'll get back to better temperatures so it will be more comfortable to work on this. I can see that I need to finish this before summer really gets going!

I finished two books this week; one was a decent read and one was spectacular. Set in 1977 suburban Rochester, Lake Effect explores a moment of restlessness that ripples through two families, beginning with Nina’s impulsive affair and radiating outward into her daughter Clara’s life for years to come. Sweeney is at her best when she captures the quiet dissatisfaction of adulthood and the way a single choice can fracture a family’s sense of stability. The writing is observant and often wry, especially in its portrayal of marriage, longing, and the stories people tell themselves to justify their actions.

But this is also a book where nearly everyone behaves badly, and not always in ways that feel illuminating. The adults make reckless, self-absorbed choices, but what’s more frustrating is how those patterns echo into the next generation. Clara, as a grown woman, remains stuck in the emotional wake of her mother’s decisions, yet she, too, makes choices that are difficult to sympathize with. Instead of deepening the novel’s themes, this generational mirroring sometimes makes the story feel repetitive rather than revelatory.

The title is a strong and fitting metaphor. A lake effect storm, when cold air sweeps over warmer water and produces sudden, intense snowfall, perfectly captures the emotional climate of the book. Small shifts in temperature lead to outsized, unexpected consequences, and Sweeney seems interested in how quickly lives can be altered by moments of desire or impulsivity. Still, like those storms, the impact here can feel more blustery than transformative.

In the end, Lake Effect has moments of insight and emotional truth, but it didn’t fully cohere for me. It was kind of a fun read for me to see just how badly the characters could behave, but not one that lingered much past the last page for me. This was three stars for me.

I’ll admit it: I wasn’t entirely sure I wanted to leave Olive Kitteridge behind. There’s something about Olive, her sharp edges, her loneliness, her unexpected tenderness, that lingers long after the last page. So when I opened The Things We Never Say, I did so with a tiny bit of reluctance, unsure if I was ready to trade her in for Strout's newest character.

But Elizabeth Strout knows exactly what she’s doing.

Artie Dam is, in many ways, the opposite of Olive, gentler, quieter, more inwardly unsettled, but he is every bit as real. He’s a good man, simply trying to live in a world that often feels confusing and off-kilter. Strout captures his inner life with such precision that his questions, about marriage, about how little we truly know even the people we love, and about truth and the things we never say are ones that felt much like questions I've asked myself.

And that’s the magic here: nothing “big” needs to happen for everything to feel enormous. A single revelation ripples outward, forcing Artie (and the reader) to reconsider what a life is made of, what we say, what we don’t, and what it costs to keep certain truths buried.

What sets Strout apart, too, is her ability to write about the current political and cultural climate with honesty and restraint. She doesn’t grandstand or simplify; instead, she lets it seep naturally into her characters’ lives, the way it does in ours, through unease, conversation, silence, sometimes quiet division, and being appalled and horrified daily. It’s one of the few portrayals in fiction that has actually felt true. As always, her prose is deceptively simple, clean, precise, and deeply compassionate. She sees her characters clearly, flaws and all, and loves them anyway. And because she does, we do, too.

There’s a passing reference to Olive Kitteridge that made me inordinately happy, one of those small, perfect moments that reminds you all of Strout’s characters exist in the same emotional universe. It felt like running into an old friend when you least expect it.

By the end, I wasn’t missing Olive anymore (well, not quite as much). Artie Dam had taken his place beside her as another beautifully drawn, fully human character trying to make sense of things that don’t always make sense.

Five stars for a novel that feels both intimate and expansive, and for a writer who continues to illuminate the quiet, complicated truths of being alive.

Thank you to Edelweiss and Random House for providing me with a copy of this book. It will be published on May 5, 2026.
 

What are you making and reading this April Fool's Day?   

 

Tuesday, March 31, 2026

Read With Us: It's An (Exciting) New Book!


We're thrilled to announce the Read With Us spring selection: Good People by Patmeena Sabit. 

I think it's better if you read this debut novel without a lot of advance knowledge, but I will share the publisher's blurb as I don't think it gives away too much. 

"The Sharaf family is the picture of success. Successful, rich, happy. They came to this country as refugees with nothing more than the clothes on their backs. And now, after years of hard work, they live in the most exclusive neighborhood, their growing family attending the most prestigious schools. Zorah, the eldest daughter, is the apple of her father’s eye.

When an unthinkable tragedy strikes, everyone is left reeling and the family is thrust into the court of public opinion. There is talk that behind closed doors the Sharafs’ happy household was anything but. Did the Sharaf family achieve the American dream? Or was the image of the model immigrant family just a façade?

Like a literary game of ping-pong, Good People compels the reader to reconsider what might have happened even on the previous page. Told through a kaleidoscope of perspectives, it is a riveting, provocative, and haunting story of family—sisters, brothers, mothers, fathers, and the communities that claim us as family in difficult times." 

The hardcover and audiobook versions have a manageable hold queue at my libraries, so I hope that is also the case for you. I started listening to the audiobook, but decided that I also needed to read it with my eyes, so I bought the Kindle version for $13.99.  

KymCarole, and I will be talking about the book, giving additional information (but not too much!), and doing promotional posts throughout April and May. Discussion day for Good People is scheduled for Tuesday, June 9, 2026 at 7:00 pm Eastern time, so mark your calendars. We'll ask questions on our blogs that day and then host the always educational and illuminating Zoom discussion. I think this one will be quite discussable, so I hope you'll Read With Us!

Monday, March 30, 2026

Read With Us: Time to Wrap It Up

It's my turn to do the Read With Us wrap-up and I've been thinking about how best to capture our discussion of Gilead.

We had a wonderful group of 12 participants, and we were fairly evenly split over whether we liked the book, thought it was just okay, or just plain hated it. 

Carole asked whether Ames ultimately succeeded in offering his son meaningful guidance through the letter, which drifts through memory, theology, regret, and wonder. The general consensus was that it didn't offer much direct guidance; instead, it felt more self-serving, closer to a memoir or a personal reckoning than a roadmap for a child. Jane suggested that Ames’s son might interpret the letter differently at various stages of his life, and many of us agreed with Dee’s observation that the letter primarily served to “unburden his soul.”

Kym raised thoughtful questions about the novel’s literary style, its epistolary format, lack of traditional chapter breaks, and Ames’s distinctly “reverend-y” voice, and whether these elements enhanced or hindered the reading experience. She also prompted discussion about Jack Boughton, particularly Ames’s lingering distrust of him and how honestly that distrust is portrayed. We talked about the tension this creates and how Ames responds to Jack’s news about his family, as well as whether he would truly have welcomed them to Gilead.

Many of us felt the epistolary format was limiting, largely because we only saw events through Ames’s perspective. Several people noted the absence of dialogue, especially between Ames and Lila, and wondered what kind of relationship they might have actually had. There was also a sense that the novel might have been more compelling if told from a woman’s point of view.

When I asked why the novel resonates so deeply with some readers but feels slow or inaccessible to others, the most common answer was its lack of plot and forward momentum. Some readers found the stream-of-consciousness style frustrating, even describing it as “word vomit” or meandering, with little sense of resolution. While many of us acknowledged Robinson’s beautiful prose, but those moments could also get buried within the narrative. Ames’s voice, in particular, struck some readers as overly sermon-like, which made it harder to connect.

So there you have it. We had a fascinating side discussion about how reading experiences can change over time. Kym, who has read the book three times, found that each reading felt different. We also considered whether the “unprecedented times” we’re living through might make readers less patient with quieter, more introspective novels that lack clear plot or character growth.

As always, I came away grateful for this group. Our Read With Us discussions consistently help me see books in new ways, and participants often raise points I wouldn’t have considered on my own. This was certainly one of those conversations. Thank you to everyone who read along, joined the discussion, and shared your thoughts.

If you attended the Zoom and would like to add your own highlights in the comments, please do; I'd love to hear them. We’ll be announcing our spring selection tomorrow, March 31, so be sure to check back. I can promise it’s quite different from Gilead, with no nuns, and no long-winded reverends!

Friday, March 27, 2026

Friday Letters

 

Today I'm taking my virtual fountain pen in hand to write a few Friday letters. I've visited the DMV, seen something new and had some reactions. You might, too. 

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 Dear NJ DMV,

You might wonder why I’m writing you a letter that references Sneetches, but during my recent visit to obtain a Real ID license, they were all I could think about. Applicants were required to stand in line at three different stations, and even after making an appointment, it often seemed that the goal at each one was to reject people. No stars upon thars!

At the first station, many applicants were told they had not completed the Real ID application correctly. They were given another chance, and if they succeeded, they were allowed to move on to the second station for the dreaded ID check. There were twelve people in line ahead of me, but sadly, only one of them (and I) made it to the final line. The other ten were sent away without further progress towards stars upon thars, hopefully to try again another day.

At the final station, my documents were checked once more, scanned, and my picture was taken. I should receive my Real ID license within two weeks, and I sincerely hope there is a star on it certifying that I was patient enough to wait two hours. It feels like you should also send me a nice blue star that I can proudly display on my stomach, but I’ll still be happy if it’s just my Real ID license.

I was a bit disappointed that there didn’t seem to be any DMV employees with whom I could joke about the Star-Bellied Sneetches. I think it might have improved the day slightly for all of us.

Thank you for testing my ability to find documents that prove I'm who I think I am,

A Star-bellied NJ motorist

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Dear Mrs. Cubberly,

I still remember the note you sent home after I committed the grave parental offense of packing Ryan a (gasp!) frosted Pop-Tart for first-grade snack time. You firmly explained that such a treat was not only unhealthy, but also the cause of widespread classroom unrest, as Ryan’s classmates suddenly developed a strong and immediate interest in his snack.

You suggested that, should I persist in my Pop-Tart ways, I might consider the unfrosted variety, those noble, fruit-filled bastions of health. I’ve thought about that note every time I pass the Pop-Tarts aisle for the past 30 years, and I must admit, it still makes me smile. I’m not convinced that any Pop-Tart, frosted or otherwise, has ever earned a spot on a nutritionist’s “recommended” list. At the time, though, I sent the frosted kind for two very sound reasons: it was what we had, and it was what Ryan would actually eat.

But now, a new development: I recently spotted Protein Pop-Tarts in the store. They are, astonishingly, still frosted. This raises an important question that only you, I feel, are qualified to answer: have we finally achieved the dream? Are frosted Protein Pop-Tarts now … healthy?

I eagerly await your ruling.

Sincerely,

Ryan's Mom 

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I hope you all enjoy a wonderful weekend, with or without Pop-Tarts (or anyone judging whether what you eat is healthy or not). 


Wednesday, March 25, 2026

Unraveled Wednesday: 3/25/26

I’m happy to join Kat and the Unravelers today with a bit more knitting on the Dream Hitchhiker.


It probably doesn't look much different since the last time, but I added 12 more teeth, and I'm getting ready to start the third skein. There's quite a bit more to go, but it's pleasurable knitting, so I'm not in a rush. 

I finished two ARCs this week; one was pretty good and the second one was perfect. The Burning Side is one of those family dramas that pulls you in with crisis, a devastating house fire, and then slowly reveals the deeper, quieter burns already smoldering beneath the surface.

Sarah Damoff does an especially strong job capturing the complicated emotions of an extended family. The novel moves between perspectives, April, Leo, and April’s mother Deb, giving us a layered look at marriage, parenthood, aging, and the long shadows cast by childhood. The range of issues woven into the story is ambitious: divorce, dyslexia, Alzheimer’s, grief, and the logistical and emotional fallout of losing a home. At its best, the book holds all of this with real compassion and insight.

I particularly appreciated how Damoff portrays the push and pull of family life, the way support and strain often come from the same people. Deb’s sections, especially as she navigates her husband’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis, felt grounded and deeply human. There’s a sense throughout the novel that love persists even when it’s strained, imperfect, or hard-won.

That said, the writing occasionally tips into the overwrought. There are moments where the prose feels a bit too heavy, as if reaching for emotional depth but landing instead in repetition or excess. A lighter touch in some sections would have made the strongest moments land even harder.

Still, despite those uneven patches, I found myself genuinely invested in this family and their 
outcome. Damoff’s strength lies in her empathy, and by the end, what lingers is not just the trauma they endure, but the ways they continue to choose one another. This is a thoughtful, emotionally rich novel about what survives, both materially and emotionally, after everything else burns. Three and a half stars rounded up.

Thank you to Edelweiss and Simon & Schuster for providing me with a copy of this book. It will be published on May 19, 2026. There is a goodreads giveaway if you are interested. 

I didn’t think Douglas Stuart could surpass Shuggie Bain or Young Mungo for me, but John of John is, without question, his finest work yet.

From its opening pages, this novel feels both intimate and expansive, rooted deeply in the rugged beauty of the Isle of Harris while quietly unraveling the emotional terrain of a son returning home. John-Calum’s homecoming is not just geographic; it’s a reckoning with identity, desire, faith, and the complicated inheritance of family expectations. Stuart captures this tension with such precision that even the smallest interactions hum with meaning.

What struck me most is the emotional restraint paired with devastating clarity. The relationship between Cal and his father is rendered with an almost unbearable honesty, love and disappointment braided so tightly together they’re nearly indistinguishable. And then there’s Ella, whose sharp tongue and hard-won pragmatism provide both relief and depth, embodying a different kind of survival.

Stuart’s prose is as luminous as ever, spare, poetic, and deeply attentive to place. The island itself feels alive: harsh, beautiful, and unyielding, mirroring the inner lives of its characters. Every detail, from lambing to weaving, grounds the story in a tactile reality that makes the emotional stakes feel even higher.

This is a novel about the quiet courage it takes to live truthfully, especially in places and families where silence has long been the norm. It’s about the cost of that truth, but also its necessity.

Devastating, tender, and exquisitely crafted, John of John is a masterpiece. 
Thank you to Edelweiss and Grove Press for providing me with a copy of this book. It will be published on May 5, 2026. 

What are you making and reading this last Wednesday in March?   

Tuesday, March 24, 2026

Read With Us: Today Is the Day for the Real Discussion!

After a slight delay due to the flu, we're back today for our postponed discussion of Gilead by Marilynne Robinson. My questions are the same, so this post is much the same as last week. There is no need to answer the questions again if you did last week, unless you have more thoughts you'd like to share. 

KymCarole, and I are each posting a discussion question or two on our blogs today, and you are welcome to respond in the comments. I would also encourage you to reply to others' comments if you choose.  This is a book discussion, after all, so there are no correct answers or right opinions. I'm really looking forward to discussing this book. I'll be honest; I found it difficult to read, and after several false starts, I finally finished it. So I think this discussion will be valuable for me, and I hope for others of you as well. 

 

Here are my questions: Why do you think this novel resonates so deeply with some readers, and feels slow or difficult to others? Does this look at a 1950s rural, white church and town offer anything to readers in the 21st century?

I'll be glad to share my thoughts about our questions tonight during our Zoom discussion. These questions on our blogs and the Zoom discussion are your chance to express your ideasSo what do you think? I can't wait to hear your thoughts! (And I'm counting on our discussion to give me fresh perspectives in my own thinking about this novel.)

The in-person Zoom discussion will be at 7:00 pm Eastern this evening. If you haven't RSVP'd to Kym already you can send me an email (the email address is in the upper right) and I will make sure you get an invitation with the Zoom link. I hope to see you there!

Monday, March 23, 2026

I Am Brave? (Maybe)

I got my second shingles shot this morning. Even though the pharmacy tech gave me an "I Am Brave" sticker, it remains to be seen if I really am brave or not. I felt pretty darn crappy for two days after my first shot, so we'll see how I feel tomorrow. I don't want to talk myself into feeling bad, but I've got chores done and dinner prepped for tonight and tomorrow just in case. I suppose I was a little bit brave because I did go back for my second shot!

Friday, March 20, 2026

Friday Letters

Today I'm taking my virtual fountain pen in hand to write a few Friday letters. I've read several things and I have some reactions. You might, too. 

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Dear Snake Yoga People, 

Kittens, yes. Snakes, no, absolutely not, never in a million years. 

No thank you,

A person who is creeped out even thinking about snakes 

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Dear Charles Darwin,

I  know you are no longer alive, but I still want to thank you for your letter writing. Whenever I have a bad day, I remember that you, one of our greatest scientific minds, also had some bad days, and you expressed your thoughts quite eloquently in your letters. 

Oh my God how I do hate species & varieties.
 -Charles Darwin to J.D. Hooker, 11 Mar 1858   

I am very tired, very stomachy & hate nearly the whole world.
-Charles Darwin to Thomas Huxley, 10 Sep 1860
 
I am very poorly today & very stupid & hate everybody & everything.
-Charles Darwin to Charles Lyell, 1 Oct 1861
 
I hate myself, I hate clover, and I hate bees. 
-Charles Darwin to John Lubbock, 3 Sep 1862.  
 
While I have never actually used any of these, I do keep a list of them just in case. I think they might come in handy someday. 
 
I am not too poorly today, but sometimes stupid, and not too fond of some people and some things,
 
Bonny
 
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Dear Mayo Clinic,
 
There are times when knitting gets the best of me but I do want to thank you for your research and findings"The investigators found that ordinary yet intellectually stimulating activities such as using a computer, playing games, reading books and engaging in crafts — including knitting, woodworking and other types of handiwork — were associated with a 30 to 50 percent decrease in the chances of developing mild cognitive impairment."
 
I know you said that it was also important to maintain heart health and stay physically active, but after I've done that, I'm sitting down to grow my cognitive reserve with knitting and reading. Sometimes I even do both at the same time. Does that count double?
 
Thanks!
 
A knitter and reader
 
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I hope you have a good weekend, completely free of any snake yoga classes!