Friday, April 24, 2026

Friday Letters

 

Today I'm taking my virtual fountain pen in hand to write a few Friday letters. I've done something that might have been dumb but need to correct it, found something small that makes me happy, and written some haiku. 

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So disappointing!
 

Dear Past Bonny,

Try to remember this saying when purchasing glasses, "Penny Wise, Pound Foolish". You had your eyes checked, got the prescription from the eye doc, and searched around for the best price online for your glasses. The last pair you got from the optometrist cost ~$800 (frameless with progressive Transition lenses) and since the old ones are breaking, you were anxious to find the same thing at a much better price. You finally settled on GlassesUSA, ordered what you hoped would be the perfect pair for $275, and waited for them to be delivered. What a disappointment you had on Saturday when they arrived, you tried them on, and found that everything was blurry. There was no way that they were even remotely acceptable, so you called to start the return and refund process. That will be a saga that goes on for a couple of weeks, but how best to proceed? Renew your Costco membership and look for glasses there? Try Walmart optical and see if they can produce a pair of glasses that work for a reasonable price? Or just suck it up and go back to the optician, get a pair that will be incredibly expensive, but will most likely be done right? Glasses are a tool that I use to see all day, everyday, and I can just hear my grandfather saying, "always buy the best tools you can afford". I think I have to heed his advice. 

Sincerely,

Present and Future Bonny

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Birds by Jane Werner Watson, pictures by Eloise Wilkin, published in 1958

To Whomever Might Need It,

I love sites where people ask about treasured childhood books they vaguely remember and other people give them possible titles or leads about what their childhood memory might be. Oftentimes, the people asking the questions have very few details other than maybe a rough guide to the plot and I always laugh when they say, "It had a red (or green or blue) cover". But what I really love is when commenters successfully identify the book. It doesn't always happen, but it gives me a little jolt of joy when it does. If this is something you might enjoy, check out @myoldbooks on Instagram. I've found several book that I enjoyed as a child!

From,  

A Lover of Childhood Books 

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Dear Phyllis (my SiL), 

Last Friday I sent you a limerick about your cataract surgery that I mistakenly thought was scheduled for that day. When you told me that your first surgery was really today, I felt compelled to write some haiku for the occasion. I kind of like them, and I hope you can see well enough to possibly enjoy them also. 

Soft clouds in her eyes,
Phyllis greets the morning blur.
Soon, sharp light returns.

Kind hands, steady light,
A veil lifts from Phyllis’ gaze.
World in crisp detail.

Brave Phyllis rests calm,
New clarity on its way.
Colors sing again.

Hoping you can see clearly now,

Bonny 

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I hope your weekend includes good decisions, some good books, and clear vision.

 

Wednesday, April 22, 2026

Unraveled Wednesday: 4/22/26

I don't think there is an official Unraveled Wednesday linkup while Kat is taking a break, but Wednesdays are my favorite blogging day, especially if I haven't had to do any any actual unraveling. I'm enjoying our cooler and more seasonable weather and have been knitting almost monogamously on Justin's hat.

I'd love to finish the hat soon(ish) and get started on duplicate stitching the animals while I'm feeling motivated. I only have a couple more rows until I start the decreases so the end isn't too far away.

I finished one book this week, and it was a good one. Thanks for the recommendation, Vera! Sex of the Midwest completely won me over in a way I didn’t quite expect. Going in, I was intrigued by the premise, a mysterious town-wide sex survey arriving in inboxes, but what unfolds is something much richer and more nuanced than that hook suggests. This is very much a novel-in-stories, following a wide cast of residents in Lanier, Indiana, each chapter offering a glimpse into a different life, a different struggle, a different quiet longing. The connections between characters are subtle but satisfying, creating a layered portrait of a community that feels hopefully authentic and deeply human.

It’s been compared to Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout, one of my all-time favorite books, and I’ll admit I was a little skeptical. That’s a high bar for me, but I was pleasantly surprised by how well this measured up. Like Strout’s work, Sex of the Midwest captures the small, often unspoken moments that define people’s lives, and it does so with empathy and insight rather than judgment.

One of the book’s greatest strengths is how attached I became to these characters. Nearly every story left me wishing for just a little more time with them. I was genuinely sad to see each chapter end, and by the final pages, I realized I’ll miss many of these people, like the man waiting for his lung transplant after having covid, the aspiring writer behind the bar, the quietly simmering bureaucrat, and so many others.

It’s also worth noting that the title is a bit of a misnomer. Despite the provocative setup, this book has surprisingly little to do with sex itself (aside from one particularly enthusiastic survey respondent). Instead, it’s about connection, isolation, identity, and the strange ways people try to understand themselves and each other, especially in a post-pandemic world.

Thoughtful, quietly funny, and deeply compassionate, Sex of the Midwest is a beautifully constructed mosaic of small-town life. If you enjoy interconnected stories and character-driven fiction, this is absolutely worth your time. Four and a half stars rounded up because I may read it again in a short while; it ended way too soon.

What are you making and reading on this penultimate April Wednesday?

 

Monday, April 20, 2026

Sometimes Monday ...

 ... is a great day to Vote by Mail. 


 It's "just" the primary, but it's still important and I hope it actually gets counted!

Thursday, April 16, 2026

Three (Book reviews) on Thursday

I read three books this week, so I decided to post all the reviews together today. Edited to add: It turns out that I actually finished four but didn't want to ruin the alliteration of Three on Thursday. 

The first is one that Sarah read last week, and I read the second one in an attempt to try and make more sense of the first. Abigail Thomas’s What Comes Next and How to Like It is a quiet, contemplative memoir that reads less like a traditional narrative and more like a collection of fleeting thoughts, small, intimate moments stitched together in a non-linear, almost stream-of-consciousness style. Comprised of short vignettes, the book moves through grief, friendship, aging, creativity, and the strange, often unanswerable question of how to keep going when life keeps taking.

Thomas’s prose is undeniably sharp and direct. There’s a spareness to her writing that I appreciated; she wastes no words, and many passages carry a kind of understated honesty. Her reflections on long-term friendship offer glimpses of something deep and sustaining, even when the rest of life feels uncertain or diminished.

That said, the fragmented structure, while stylistically interesting, made it difficult to fully engage. The vignettes often felt more like impressions than explorations, and I found myself wanting more depth and more cohesion. While there are moments of insight, they felt fleeting, and I struggled to come away feeling truly enlightened, moved, or even particularly educated, which are qualities I tend to look for in a memoir.

Ultimately, this is a book that seems more about sitting with life as it is rather than drawing meaning from it. For some readers, that may be enough. For me, it felt a bit too slight to leave a lasting impression.

I came to A Three Dog Life after reading What Comes Next and How to Like It, mostly hoping to better understand the events that shaped Abigail Thomas’s later reflections. In that sense, this book provided some helpful context. It fills in the emotional and practical realities behind the fragments of her more recent work.

This memoir centers on the aftermath of her husband’s traumatic brain injury, and the life Thomas builds in response to that devastating shift. While her signature style is still present, with brief sections and a somewhat impressionistic structure, it felt more cohesive here. Her emotions are written more clearly, and I was better able to follow the arc of her experience, from shock and guilt to a kind of fragile stability.

Thomas’s prose remains spare and direct, which works well for the subject matter. There are moments of genuine insight, particularly in how she grapples with what it means to remain connected to someone who is, in many ways, no longer the person you knew. I also appreciated that I did learn something from this memoir, about care giving, adaptation, and the ways people continue living after unimaginable disruption. That’s something I tend to look for in memoir, and this book delivered more of it than her later one.

Dogs, as the title suggests, play a central role here, not just as companions, but as emotional anchors. Thomas’s deep affection for them is evident, and they help shape the quieter, rebuilt life she describes. It’s striking, too, that despite everything, she manages to carve out a decent, even meaningful life.

Still, while I admired much of what this book was doing, it didn’t fully land for me on an emotional level. The distance created by the fragmented style sometimes kept me from feeling as immersed as I wanted to be. I gave it 3.5 stars, but couldn’t quite round up.


Maxim Loskutoff’s Old King is a quiet, unsettling novel that lingers in the spaces between men, between ideologies, and between the myth of the American frontier and its unraveling. Set against the rugged backdrop of Lincoln, Montana, the story follows Duane Oshun as he runs away from a divorce in Salt Lake City and stumbles into a logging community and the orbit of a reclusive neighbor, Ted Kaczynski, along with some other reclusive and stubborn men. There are few women in this book, and they are definitely secondary characters.

I’ve always had some degree of interest in Kaczynski, with my own connection to Lincoln through having a cabin there. That familiarity made this novel feel quite grounded. Loskutoff captures the place with an authenticity that’s hard to fake, the rhythms of the town, the isolation, the quiet tensions simmering beneath everyday interactions. Lincoln is more than just a setting; it’s a force that shapes these men and their choices.

What makes Old King particularly compelling is that it isn’t really about Kaczynski, at least not in the way one might expect. Instead, it’s about the intersection of several lives of along Stemple Pass Road, men who circle one another, sometimes barely aware of the impact they’re having. Their connections are loose, almost accidental, yet deeply consequential. Loskutoff explores how proximity alone can bind people together, for better or (more often) worse.

The author's portrayal of Kaczynski is especially fascinating, neither sensationalized nor excused, but rendered as one thread in a larger tapestry of disillusionment, masculinity, and environmental grief. The “Old King” itself, the ancient Douglas fir, stands as a powerful symbol of what’s being lost, and of the competing values that drive these men toward conflict.

This is not an easy or uplifting read. There’s a quiet inevitability to the tragedy that unfolds, and it’s striking how none of these men emerge unscathed. Their lives, shaped by isolation, stubbornness, and a kind of muted longing, seem destined to collide in ways that can only end badly. Still, Old King is a deeply rewarding novel, thoughtful, atmospheric, and sharply observant. It asks difficult questions about progress, connection, and the stories we tell ourselves about independence. Three and a half stars rounded up. 

Yesteryear is an ambitious, unsettling debut that’s at its best when it leans into its sharp social critique, even if it occasionally stumbles under the weight of its own ideas. 

The premise was irresistible to me: a carefully curated “tradwife” influencer suddenly forced to live the actual reality of early 19th-century life. Burke wastes no time stripping away Natalie’s glossy, performative existence and replacing it with something brutal, filthy, and deeply disorienting. The contrast between the Instagram fantasy and the physical toll of survival is vividly rendered, and often genuinely disturbing. There’s a visceral quality to these sections that kept me turning pages.

What worked well for me was how pointed the novel is about performance, of femininity, of faith, and of morality. Natalie’s confidence in her own superiority, built on a curated life and a rigid belief system, feels uncomfortably real. I actually know a woman very much like this; she professes to be deeply religious, but she has also openly expressed that her faith makes her better than others. That familiarity made Natalie less of a caricature and more of a recognizable and unsettling type. Burke clearly understands the psychology she’s writing about, and that lends the book a sharp, sometimes biting authenticity.

That said, the novel doesn’t always balance its themes as smoothly as it could. At times, the satire feels heavy-handed, and the story’s central mystery, what exactly is happening to Natalie, loses momentum as the book toggles between possibilities. I found myself much more invested in the idea of the story than in its eventual direction. I'll admit that I childishly wanted Natalie to get her comeuppance, but I'm not sure that happened. Parts felt rushed, particularly given how extreme Natalie’s transformation is meant to be.

Still, Yesteryear is a thought-provoking read, especially for anyone interested in the intersection of social media, gender roles, patriarchy, and belief. It’s sometimes uncomfortable and unafraid to ask questions, but sadly, it doesn't explore those questions in any depth.
 
Some different reading for me this week, but that's what keeps things interesting. What are you reading? 

 

 

Wednesday, April 15, 2026

Unraveled Wednesday: 4/15/26

I’m happy to join Kat and the Unravelers today with the Hitchhiker still in progress, and I've finally received all of the colors of Palette from Knitpicks that I need to knit and duplicate stitch Justin's hat. 


We're on our second day of unseasonably warm temperatures in the 90s. This is supposed to last until Friday and then we'll return to more seasonable temps next week. To be honest, the Hitchhiker looks much the same as last week so I'm not even going to stretch it out, but I have added another skein. I knit on it a lot yesterday, but my hands get sweaty so I may be forced to set it aside temporarily until next week. That's okay, I have quite a bit to knit on Justin's hat and then the duplicate stitching will probably take even longer. That pile o' Palette is a good reminder that I should get going!

I read three books this week and seemed to write wordy reviews, so I'll post them all together tomorrow.  

What are you making this Tax Day in April? 


Tuesday, April 14, 2026

Happy Reblooming Day!

I've had a bunch of these little orchids over the years, but I'm down to just two of them. I've never successfully rebloomed any of them ... until now!

I can't pretend that I did anything special; it pretty much happened on its own. I did read that lowering the temperature might help in reblooming orchids, and our kitchen where the orchids live was really cold during much of the winter. That may have contributed but it's nothing I can repeat.
 

The flower stalk has had buds for a couple of months and they finally started to open last week. It's a little bit hard to see, but the flowers have a tiny little "dogtooth" or "v" thing at the end of the lower purple petal that fascinates me. I'm looking forward to more buds opening up and seeing lovely flowers for a while. I may even have to get another little orchid the next time I'm at the grocery store!

 

Friday, April 10, 2026

Friday Letter

 
Today I'm taking my virtual fountain pen in hand to write just one Friday letter. This has been a week and then some, filled with deadlines, threats, and global terror. I think that very often poetry is one of the best ways to deal with feelings and concerns this deep, so I wrote another poem. I've been thinking about it all week, so I'm sending this letter to all of you, to presidents, prime ministers, supreme leaders, really everyone, as we're all in this together.

Earth from Artemis II

To Everyone,

A quiet thing at first,
no louder than a breath,
kindness passing hand to hand
like a small, steady flame.

Respect grows in its shadow,
roots threading under borders,
lifting what was hardened
into something we can feel.

Hope arrives without spectacle,
just a door left open,
a chair pulled close,
a voice that chooses truth.

And peace,
not distant, not impossible,
but here, in the fragile work
of seeing one another whole.

Sincerely and with love,

A Global Citizen In Search of Peace

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Wishing you a very peaceful weekend.