I finished two books this week, and they were both a little outside of my usual reading. Sarah recommended this first one, and since I seem to be on a memoir streak, I gave it a try.
In How to Lose Your Mother, Molly Jong-Fast writes with a voice that is unmistakably her own, sharp, self-aware, anxious, funny, exhausting, and often brutally candid all at once. The memoir moves quickly between humor, resentment, grief, celebrity gossip, family history, and the slow devastation of Erica Jong’s dementia. At times the tone feels almost frenetic, but that energy also feels true to the life she’s describing. Even when I wasn’t fully invested, I was rarely bored.
One of the most compelling
aspects of the book is its complicated portrait of motherhood and
daughterhood. Jong-Fast clearly spent much of her life longing for
stability and attention from a mother who was consumed by fame,
relationships, ambition, her own needs, and addiction to alcohol. The
title itself captures the emotional core of the memoir: how do you mourn
a mother you never really had in the first place? Some passages about
caregiving, aging, and anticipatory grief were genuinely moving.
I
listened to the audiobook, which added another interesting layer to the
experience. Molly Jong-Fast has a very distinctive narration style and
voice. At first I found it a little jarring , clipped, intense, almost
breathless at times and strident at others , but as the memoir went on
it started to feel perfectly matched to the story she was telling and
the emotional chaos underneath it.
In the end, I think readers
who enjoy messy family memoirs, literary gossip, and emotionally
complicated mother-daughter stories will probably get the most out of
this one. I didn’t love every moment, but I appreciated its honesty and
refusal to sentimentalize difficult relationships. This is a story about
a little girl who didn't get what she needed from her mother while she
was growing up, and that's a sad story no matter the circumstances.
Three and a half stars.
The strongest aspect of
the book is undoubtedly Mabel herself. She's nosy, opinionated,
unapologetically difficult, and far more complex than she initially
appears. Hepworth does an excellent job balancing Mabel's sharp edges
with enough vulnerability to make readers invested in her story. The
friendship that develops between Mabel and her young neighbor Persephone
is also unexpectedly charming and provides much of the novel's heart.
The
dual timelines gradually reveal Mabel's past, and while the mystery
kept me turning pages, some of the twists felt more entertaining than
surprising. The pacing occasionally lagged a bit in the middle. The
novel's blend of humor and darker subject matter is mostly successful,
though at times the tonal shifts felt a little uneven.
What ultimately makes Mad Mabel
work is its exploration of justice, redemption, and the assumptions we
make about people based on age and appearance. It's a clever premise
that asks readers to reconsider who gets labeled "dangerous" and who
gets overlooked. It is an engaging, quirky mystery with a memorable
protagonist and enough twists to keep suspense fans satisfied. Three and
a half stars rounded up.
Now I'd love to know what you're reading!
















