... is a day to try and regain your voice. This is a bit hard to explain, but after my MiL's death and service, I tried to write a blog post, but found I had nothing to say. I just had no words, and that's been pretty much true for the past ten days or so. Even before this happened, I had been thinking about the hours I spend on the blog each week, and it's been somewhat of a relief to not write. I'm not sure exactly what it is, but between the death of my MiL and the realization that my father died a year ago today, I felt like I had lost my voice.
But enough of that. My SiL and I were discussing these feelings and decided that between death and entering the part of winter that engenders these feelings, it was to be expected that we would feel this way. We decided that the best way to deal with them is to stay physically active and do things you enjoy and make you happy. Writing usually makes me happy, so here I am. I can't promise daily posts or even interesting ones, but at some point you have to get up and deal with things. Thanks to the people that checked in and thank you, Patty, for the wonderful advice.
Be gentle with yourself. The blog will be here when you're ready to write, and if it doesn't feel right, then it doesn't feel right.
ReplyDeleteI also suggest an old favorite book - sometimes getting lost in a much loved story is the best balm to ones spirit. Sending you love and peace, Bonny. XO
ReplyDeleteI've missed your posts, but I certainly understand (having lost my voice once or twice). Be kind to you and take whatever time you need.
ReplyDeleteAnd...stay warm this week - it is going to be brutal - best to curl up with a Hitchhiker around your neck and a blanket in your lap and knit and read with a cup or tea or something a tad bit stronger!
Sending all of my love, Bonny. I'm glad you're back, but certainly understand the need to turn inward and stay quiet now and again. XOXO
ReplyDeleteI write a little differently than I used to, and I imagine that will continue to evolve and change, but one of the reasons I continue to blog after all these years is that usually, in ways big or small, just doing it can turn my mood around... and it doesn't take much. I've lost my voice from time to time, too. Sometimes you just need to be quiet! I'm happy to hear from you.
ReplyDeleteHappy to see you back my friend! And I'm completely blown away by your blooming geraniums in January! WOW!
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you decided to come back. I missed you but didn't want to bug you, knowing that you were going through a time of sadness and change.
ReplyDeleteThere you are! I was wondering if you were OK, but then again, sometimes people need to be left alone. I'm glad to hear from you, and I understand your feelings during this time. After major life changes, sometimes you just need to reflect. Maybe you have lost your voice because you didn't have anything to share at this time. That's OK, Bonny, in fact it's probably very healthy with all you have had going on. Do what feels right and know your peeps are here waiting for the day when you feel like talking to us. It's all good! Take care of you.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear of your MIL's passing. These can be such hard things. But I agree with you: physical activity and writing are always good ways to heal.
ReplyDeleteI adore my MIL and can't imagine life without her!
Thank you. I'm glad you also have a wonderful MiL. Mine was accepting, caring, and giving, and I really miss her!
DeleteI looked for you everyday and wondered if you'd lost your voice. Seeing you on Goodreads was how I knew you were around and would (likely) come back when you were ready. I enjoy your daily observations and I have sense of relief that you've returned. Be silent when you need (I certainly understand) but know you are missed because your words have meaning for us all.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you're giving yourself some time and space to feel what you're feeling. ... and it's also good to see you back here - I love reading what you write! Hugs!
ReplyDeletehugs to you sweet Bonny, grief is a weird thing and if you need to not blog that is okay and if you do blog you know we will be here!!
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